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How Many Ex's Have Ended Up In Bed... Only To Regret It?
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Count me in! When I first divorced, I really hated my exhusband. Believe me, there were reasons we divorced...many, many reasons why. As time went by, I sort of forgot how horrible my ex could be, or how many of his traits I found impossible to put up with. As they say, time marches on, all wounds heal. Well, time marches on, but all wounds do NOT heal. They may mend, but they leave an ugly scar behind.
I liked the movie "It's Complicated" with Meryl Streep, Alec Baldwin and Steve Martin. I got why the two ex's hooked up... but the outcome was predictable. You can't go home again. Once your husband has betrayed you with another woman, you can't forget that betrayal.
Years after our divorce, I thought I could move past our bitter history, but I was wrong. When I least expected it, my mind would be littered with unpleasant memories of past misdeeds. And along with those memories came feelings of anger for just how emotionally and financially devastating our divorce was. It took awhile, but I finally realized I had moved forward with my life. I had changed; I was no longer the person I was when we were married. And more importantly, I liked the new person I had become. The new me would never had put up with my ex for 21 years. She would have booted him out immediately. The new me had spunk, determination, self esteem and hope for the future.
My momentary reconnection with my ex is actually quite normal amongst divorced couples. There is that "whatever" that drew us together to begin with, so even though we had parted, that connection still remained between us. Call it chemistry, familiarity, bonding or lost friendship. The truth is, my marriage wasn't all bad, there were a lot of good times, too. And as humans do for our self preservation, we tend to focus on the good and forget the bad. So even though I had tried to sweep all the bad memories under my mattress, hoping they'd disappear, eventually they resurfaced, along with the dust, dirt and lint they had been keeping company with.
For me, the short relationship proved invaluable, because it helped me release the past for good. I no longer wondered, "what if"? My questions were answered and I was free to live my life without fear that I had made a dreadful mistake. I knew, without doubt, that I had made the right decision in letting go and starting my life over. Sometimes, do-0vers are a wonderful thing!
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Editor Plus50Crowd
Count me in! When I first divorced, I really hated my exhusband. Believe me, there were reasons we divorced...many, many reasons why. As time went by, I sort of forgot how horrible my ex could be, or how many of his traits I found impossible to put up with. As they say, time marches on, all wounds heal. Well, time marches on, but all wounds do NOT heal. They may mend, but they leave an ugly scar behind.
I liked the movie "It's Complicated" with Meryl Streep, Alec Baldwin and Steve Martin. I got why the two ex's hooked up... but the outcome was predictable. You can't go home again. Once your husband has betrayed you with another woman, you can't forget that betrayal.
Years after our divorce, I thought I could move past our bitter history, but I was wrong. When I least expected it, my mind would be littered with unpleasant memories of past misdeeds. And along with those memories came feelings of anger for just how emotionally and financially devastating our divorce was. It took awhile, but I finally realized I had moved forward with my life. I had changed; I was no longer the person I was when we were married. And more importantly, I liked the new person I had become. The new me would never had put up with my ex for 21 years. She would have booted him out immediately. The new me had spunk, determination, self esteem and hope for the future.
My momentary reconnection with my ex is actually quite normal amongst divorced couples. There is that "whatever" that drew us together to begin with, so even though we had parted, that connection still remained between us. Call it chemistry, familiarity, bonding or lost friendship. The truth is, my marriage wasn't all bad, there were a lot of good times, too. And as humans do for our self preservation, we tend to focus on the good and forget the bad. So even though I had tried to sweep all the bad memories under my mattress, hoping they'd disappear, eventually they resurfaced, along with the dust, dirt and lint they had been keeping company with.
For me, the short relationship proved invaluable, because it helped me release the past for good. I no longer wondered, "what if"? My questions were answered and I was free to live my life without fear that I had made a dreadful mistake. I knew, without doubt, that I had made the right decision in letting go and starting my life over. Sometimes, do-0vers are a wonderful thing!
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